Dr. Mufti Syed Ziauddin Naqshbandi Mujaddidi Qadri

Shaykh Ul Fiqh, Jamia Nizamia; Founder - Director

Abul Hasanaat Islamic Research Center

Mufti Maulana Syed Zia Uddin Naqshbandi Quadri

Shaik-ul-Fiqh - Jamia Nizamia

Abul Hasanaat Islamic Research Center

Scholarly Articles

How to treat our relatives

<meta content="text/html; charset=utf-8" http-equiv="Content-Type" /> <meta content="Word.Document" name="ProgId" /> <meta content="Microsoft Word 12" name="Generator" /> <meta content="Microsoft Word 12" name="Originator" /> <link href="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\mohi\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtmlclip1\01\clip_filelist.xml" rel="File-List" /> <link href="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\mohi\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtmlclip1\01\clip_themedata.thmx" rel="themeData" /> <link href="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\mohi\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtmlclip1\01\clip_colorschememapping.xml" rel="colorSchemeMapping" /><style type="text/css">  </style> <meta content="text/html; charset=utf-8" http-equiv="Content-Type" /> <meta content="Word.Document" name="ProgId" /> <meta content="Microsoft Word 12" name="Generator" /> <meta content="Microsoft Word 12" name="Originator" /> <link href="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\mohi\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtmlclip1\01\clip_filelist.xml" rel="File-List" /> <link href="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\mohi\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtmlclip1\01\clip_themedata.thmx" rel="themeData" /> <link href="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\mohi\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtmlclip1\01\clip_colorschememapping.xml" rel="colorSchemeMapping" /><style type="text/css">  </style> <p class="MsoNormal">Various verses of the Holy Quran direct us to treat our relatives nicely.<span style="">  </span>Those who cut off relationships are declared as those who spread corruption in this world and that they will suffer losses on the day of Qiyamah.<span style="">  </span>Allah Ta'ala says:<o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Those who break Allah's Covenant after it is ratified and who sunder what Allah has ordered to be joined, and do mischief on earth: these cause loss (only) to themselves.<span style="">  </span>Surah Baqarah (2:27)<o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">We are ordered to treat our parents also in the best possible manner.<o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">………treat with kindness your parents and kindred,………..Surah Baqarah (2:83)</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">If someone advises a relative or someone for the sake of good, then the person being advised should not get angry at it.<span style="">  </span>Allah Ta'ala will take the person to account who takes offence at scolding or advising for betterment.<span style="">  </span><o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Speaking ill about someone behind their back, when what they are saying is true, is called "Gheebah" (backbiting) and the person who does it is a sinner.<span style="">  </span>Complaining to the head of the family to stop something wrong is not backbiting, provided the intention is to right the wrong and not to humiliate or hurt somebody.<span style="">  </span><o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">The people in the family should understand each other's nature.<span style="">  </span>They should keep the situation and the nature of the person in the mind and advise each person about what is good for them.<span style="">  </span>As given in Sahih Bukhari:<o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Translation of Hadith:<span style="">  </span>Deen (religion) is kindliness, for Allah Ta'ala, for the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam), for the Imams of the Muslims and for common Muslims.<span style="">  </span><o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">(Sahih Bukhari, Kitab Ul Iman, Pg No. 13)<o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Each person should fulfill their obligations and fulfill the rights of others, then Allah-willing, there will be no question of quarrels, etc.<span style="">  </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">If someone hurts us and we break away relations with them, then neither is their hurting us correct and nor our breaking relations with them is correct.<span style="">  </span>We should try to convince your relatives, maintain our relationship with them and treat them nicely.<span style="">  </span>There is a Hadith in Jame' Tirmidhi about treating one's relatives nicely:<o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Translation of Hadith:<span style="">  </span>Hadhrat Abdullah bin Umar (May Allah be well pleased with them) narrates from the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) that the one who treats relatives nicely is not the one who treats others as they treat him (or her), but it is the one who joins relationships, when they get broken.<span style="">  </span>(Jame' Tirmidhi, Vol. 2, Hadith No: 1831)</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">And Allah (<i style="">Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala</i>) knows best.<span style="">  </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Mufti Syed Ziauddin Naqshbandi Qadri,</p> <p class="MsoNormal">[Associate Professor of Islamic Law, Jamia Nizamia,</p> <div style="border-style: none none solid; border-color: -moz-use-text-color -moz-use-text-color windowtext; border-width: medium medium 1.5pt; padding: 0in 0in 1pt;"> <p style="border: medium none ; padding: 0in;" class="MsoNormal">Founder/Director, Abul Hasanaat Islamic Research Center]</p> </div>